Friends.. foes.. betrayal..

This blog is dedicated to a very special person, who motivated and encouraged me to write this blog.. A wonderful human being..!!

I thank you from the bottom of my heart..

Love...

According to me, a FRIEND has no perfect definition..

You can define it the way you like.. Depending on your experience(I hope you understand the hidden meaning)..

The Oxford dictionary defines a friend as, "a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations..."

I'm sure many of you feel that this definition is a bit too sophisticated to describe your friend..

Lets me rephrase it in a simple way..

"a friend is a person who helps you.. is with you during every thick and thin.. with someone, you can share everything.."

Now, this statement does not apply to a 'friend' on a social-networking site..

You Might have 400 or 500 'friends' on Facebook or Orkut, but do you share every little thing with them.?

I have 430 odd friends on Facebook, but do I tell them everything.?

You know the answer, i guess..

I have made a reference to this on my status updates earlier..

My suggestion: rename the term 'friend' to 'acquaintance'..

But there may be some instances where you met your soul mate/best   friend on the web.. I did.!! (not a soul mate, though)

There are also times when your best buddy turns into a foe..

I experienced this too.. And people, its really hurts..

When all your personal secrets are told to people who are strangers to you..

You know, someone like an informer.. a mediator.. who is working all time to screw your life..

Believe me, they make up a very important part of your life..

Teaches you a very good lesson, indeed..

And yeah, there is an another group of friends, whose company you can't avoid because they had done some favor for you.. Its like, "imposed loyalty"..

And you cannot tell the person that he/she is very irritating..

Its a humorous situation.. May be because I haven't been through it yet..

Now, this category of friends teach you the real meaning of 'patience'and 'tolerance'

Every single person, you meet in your life leaves an impression, good or bad..

Similarly, you too leave a trace on the other person's mind..

Rightly said, ""HAR FRIEND ZAROORI HOTA HAI.!!""

Express Yourself.........

"EXPRESS YOURSELF".. This is more than just Airtel's tagline...
It took me a very long time to understand the real meaning of "express"..
So, coming back to the topic......


What can u actually express.??
Your imagination.. Your thoughts.. Your feelings.. Practically everything....!!!
But the way you do it is different..


For instance, lets take love..
Your partner might call you up, text you all day or personally meet you.. These are not just ways of keeping in touch with you but expressing his/her love for you..
This was about relationship..
Friendship is not so different..
I always feel that, FRIENDSHIP is just a type of relationship with a little less complications..
If your friend always wants to chat with you on Facebook or Yahoo or any IM service, it just means that he/she trusts you and wants to share some part of his/her life with you..
Don't think of it as a problem.. If you are busy, just tell it.. Ignoring the person may create misunderstandings..
But its sad to notice, such incidents are named 'flirting on the web' or 'flirting online'..
I do not dismiss the fact that flirting never happens on social networking sites, but taking it in the general sense would be wrong.. Isn't it.? Think.!!!!


There is an another side to this.. The negative one..
You might have learnt- every action has an equal and opposite reaction.. Every positive has a negative..!!
ok.! Let me not get into atomic physics now.. It is my favorite subject, though..


Sometimes expressing yourself might get you into serious trouble..
I'll give you a personal experience..
Yesterday, my friend uploaded few photographs on Facebook..
I expressed my disliking towards a photo..
I wrote it in the chat box..(I shouldn't have done that, i know)..
I just could not digest a comment posted corresponding to the photo..


Here is another incident..
A friend of mine called me to attend the techno fest..
And all i did was rejected the offer.. Looks pretty rude..
In fact, i should have assured of my presence and then made a good excuse for my absence..


The bottomline: Be a diplomat..!!!


A friend of mine, who also blogs, once told me, "Do not stop the flow of thoughts in your mind.. Just express it.. Stagnant thoughts are of no use.. whenever there is a strong activity(a persistent thought) in your mind, just write it down or share it with someone.."


To sum up: Never be very open about your thoughts..
"Listen to what others say, but do what your mind says..!!!"..
My experience has thought me this..!!

my first blog..

So here i am, blogging for the first time..
I always had a feeling, that writing a blog would be boring.. Blogging has been compared to a test match.. But today this seems to be the best or rather the only way to share my thoughts..
Sharing everything and anything in the virtual world is a good idea or infact the only alternative when you dont have real friends in the real world..


I dont have the habit of maintaining a personal diary..
I started with tweeting my thoughts..
Soon, i got into the number game of getting more followers and made my tweets more commercial.. something like advertising..
I found no one to share my thoughts with..!!


Then came the College life..!!
Life was bound to change- in a good or a bad way, i dint know then..
It was a good feeling to get into a professional course.. A new environment..!
Looked good for a few days, and life went back to square one..
I was all alone here too.. I still am.. :(
(i just realised that smilies dont appear here.. Its not a chat box.. I should get over that habit now)..


So, eventually had to resort to blogging..
Its a way of speaking with myself.. with the world.. with like minded people..